About Me

Dr Clive Selwyn - Holistic Counsellor

A man of contradictions - scientist and artist. I hold two degrees, one in medicine and another in parasitology. I have worn many hats and lived many lives. From working as a hospital anaesthetist in Central London to becoming a circus aerialist, a clown, a musician, an Arts Council-funded Artistic Director for cabaret shows, and a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu blue belt, I have pursued life with intensity and depth.

Through my work, I came to understand both the fragility and resilience of human beings. But it wasn’t until I turned that lens inward that my real journey began. This led me on a 20-year path of self-development and transformation - one that radically changed the way I experience myself.

A recent part of this transformation has come through my relationship with chronic pain. For the last few years, I have struggled with persistent neck pain that felt inescapable, wearing down not just my body, but my mind and spirit. It forced me to confront my limits, my resistance, and my deepest fears about what it meant to be in a body that wouldn’t heal the way I wanted it to. I fought it at first - tried everything to fix it, to push through, to overcome. But in the end, the real shift has come not from fighting, but from learning to listen. To stop resisting and instead, to soften. To meet the pain with awareness rather than fear. My journey with this continues…

I discovered that my greatest gift is not just to navigate my own healing but to help others heal their past wounds and step into lives of meaning and purpose. My personal growth has allowed me to meet myself in the places where I am wounded, to recognise how my personality formed as an intelligent survival strategy, and, most importantly, to soften into the truth of who I really am.

Nothing brings me more joy than articulating a vulnerable truth - because with every truth expressed, I relax further into my essence. I no longer feel the need to effort and fight all the time. I can simply be. I have what it takes. I am enough. The more awareness, understanding, and compassion I bring to myself, the less I suffer. The more connected I am to my body, the more present I become in each moment. And the more present I am, the less I identify with the stories in my mind. This has created a profound sense of freedom in my life.

This journey of healing and self-discovery has transformed my world—especially my relationships. I am a husband to an incredible wife and a father to two beautiful boys. And every day, I continue to deepen my connection to myself, to those I love, and to the life I am here to live.

My Story

My Training

Ex-NHS Doctor (incl. as an anaesthetist) - 6 years

Pharmaceutical Physician - 15 years

20 Years Self Development Work - with some of the best teachers and facilitators in the fields of personal growth, Tantra and coaching.

8 Years Men’s Work - including as a holistic counsellor, facilitator and trainer. 

Lead Facilitator, Non Executive Director for Men’s Circle - a community-based, non-profit self development club delivered by men, for men.

Holistic Counsellor Training - Working With People (450 hours)

In Detail…

Trauma, Presence & Essence (Working With People Advanced Module) Rafia Morgan. Turiya Hanover - Portugal, 2023

Authentic Relating Training (ART) Ryel Kestano, Drew Lawson - London, 2019

Working With People (Holistic Counsellor Training) Rafia Morgan, Turiya Hanover - Europe, 2018/2019

GUTS Carpet Work (Shadow Work Facilitation Training) - Hugh Newton - London, 2018

Mankind Project (MKP) New Warrior Training - Ireland, 2018

A Band of Brothers (ABOB) Beyond The Hero - Croydon, UK, 2018

Rebel Wisdom New Masculinity Workshops - Clive Selwyn, David Fuller & Ali Beiner - London, UK, 2017/18

Path of Love Participant & Staff Member Rafia Morgan, Turiya Hanover - Wales, UK, 2017/18

Nordic Men's Gathering Core Facilitator - Angsbacka, Sweden, 2017

Get Vulnerable Intimacy & Relationship Coach for Men - Clive Selwyn, London, UK, 2016/18

The New Tantra (TNT) Primal, Men's, Levels 1-6 Alex Vartman - Europe, 2016/18

The New Tantra (TNT) Men's Workshop Alex Vartman - Denmark, 2016

International School of Shamanic Temple Arts (ISTA) Level 1 Raffaello Manacorda - KPG, Thailand, 2016

Source Tantra The Art of Conscious Loving Charles Muir - Esalen, USA, 2016

Osho Leela Conscious Sexuality Sarita - Dorset, UK, 2015

OneTaste Orgasmic Meditation (OM) Coach, Co-active Coach Nicole Daedone & Maya Block - San Francisco, USA, 2014

Concord Institute iEvolve, Foundation Programme, Being in Business Greg Johnson & David Norris - London, UK, 2012

Testimonials

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

- Carl Rogers

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