About Me
Dr Clive Selwyn MBBS, BSc (HONS)
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
- Carl Rogers
I definitely do not have it all figured out. From being bullied as a kid at school, to struggling with sex addiction during my 30s, to my current battle with a chronic neck injury in my 40s, I have certainly had my fair share of challenges to face. After my own “light bulb moment” in 2004, I realised that my life would never be the same again. The result was an unquenchable search for truth and meaning - culminating in a deep interest in psychology, philosophy, and spirituality. Fast forward 15 years, and many hundreds of hours of transformational workshops, and my passion for working with people was ignited.
I have discovered that my deepest gift to the world is to help others to heal their past wounds and traumas, and to create a life filled with meaning and purpose for myself and for my clients.
My Story
Proud husband and father
My work has shown me some of the places where I am wounded, and where my personality has developed as an intelligent strategy to survive. I have jumped into the fiery crucible of truth multiple times, looked my inner demons right in the face, and come out the other side to tell the tale. The result is a greater and greater realisation and relaxation into the very essence and nature of who I am. I don’t have to effort and fight all the time, now I can sometimes relax and just be, I have what it takes, I am enough.
The more awareness, understanding and compassion I have for myself, the less I suffer. The more connected I can be to my body, the more present I am with each moment. The more present I can be, the less I identify with my thoughts. This all creates more freedom in my life. Through this journey of healing and self-discovery, I have managed to positively transform many aspects of my life, especially my personal relationships - I am a husband to a wonderful wife and father to two beautiful boys.
My Training
Ex-NHS Doctor (incl. as an anaesthetist) - 6 years
Pharmaceutical Physician - 15 years
10+ Years Self Development Work - with some of the best teachers and facilitators in the fields of personal growth, Tantra and coaching.
6+ Years Men’s Work - including as a holistic counsellor, facilitator and trainer.
Lead Facilitator, Non Executive Director for Men’s Circle - a community-based, non-profit self development club delivered by men, for men.
Holistic Counsellor Training - Working With People (300 hours)
In Detail…
Trauma, Presence & Essence (Working With People Advanced Module) Rafia Morgan. Turiya Hanover - Portugal, 2023
Authentic Relating Training (ART) Ryel Kestano, Drew Lawson - London, 2019
Working With People (Holistic Counsellor Training) Rafia Morgan, Turiya Hanover - Europe, 2018/2019
GUTS Carpet Work (Shadow Work Facilitation Training) - Hugh Newton - London, 2018
Mankind Project (MKP) New Warrior Training - Ireland, 2018
A Band of Brothers (ABOB) Beyond The Hero - Croydon, UK, 2018
Rebel Wisdom New Masculinity Workshops - Clive Selwyn, David Fuller & Ali Beiner - London, UK, 2017/18
Path of Love Participant & Staff Member Rafia Morgan, Turiya Hanover - Wales, UK, 2017/18
Nordic Men's Gathering Core Facilitator - Angsbacka, Sweden, 2017
Get Vulnerable Intimacy & Relationship Coach for Men - Clive Selwyn, London, UK, 2016/18
The New Tantra (TNT) Primal, Men's, Levels 1-6 Alex Vartman - Europe, 2016/18
The New Tantra (TNT) Men's Workshop Alex Vartman - Denmark, 2016
International School of Shamanic Temple Arts (ISTA) Level 1 Raffaello Manacorda - KPG, Thailand, 2016
Source Tantra The Art of Conscious Loving Charles Muir - Esalen, USA, 2016
Osho Leela Conscious Sexuality Sarita - Dorset, UK, 2015
OneTaste Orgasmic Meditation (OM) Coach, Co-active Coach Nicole Daedone & Maya Block - San Francisco, USA, 2014
Concord Institute iEvolve, Foundation Programme, Being in Business Greg Johnson & David Norris - London, UK, 2012
Testimonials
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"It was great to to discuss sex and relationships with a man in my own age group, who has a view on these topics that resonates with me, and that I feel comes from a healthy place. I recommend getting Clive to help you to accelerate your progress on your own path of self-development."
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"Whenever I have been blessed to spend time with Dr Clive in a professional setting he has always been extremely attentive to my needs. I felt heard at every stage and he was almost always able to offer me a profound solution to my problems."
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“My sessions with Clive provided valuable feedback on my progress, and signposts to help me further on my way to re-awakening sensitivity to finer shades, instead of living life in cycles of high-low intensity."
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“Clive offers understanding and reason for our social behaviours within relationships, and this really helped me to resolve my own issues"
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